Contentment is huge. And when we display discontentment in our lives, our husband immediately feels the need to ‘fix, fix, fix’ until he feels like there’s nothing more that he can…
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Whether it’s due to a tragic event or years of pent-up hurt and unforgiveness, many of us have family members who are estranged from one another. That sibling who hasn’t…
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February 2, 2024: AMA on Secure Relationships 12 In a recent interactive session on Facebook, Kimberly Castelo, a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, and I embarked on an Ask Me…
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Grandparents are supposed to be kid experts. We’ve raised our own children and by now should be seasoned and mellowed-out enough to roll with the ups and downs of our…
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Valentine’s Day has a negative (and controversial) reputation as an American holiday for its sentimentalism and commercialization. It is an especially sensitive topic in the field of relationship psychology. Despite…
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They were perfectly matched in so many ways. She was a young lawyer (land use law) and so was he (media rights). They were both Midwest transplants to Seattle. They…
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Embarking on a journey into sex therapy is a step toward improving one of the most intimate and rewarding (yet often confusing and tricky!) aspects of human experience. As a…
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The Protest-Withdraw Pattern: Unraveling Emotional Disconnect in Relationships 32 This article was originally published on Healing Moments Counseling. Meet Sarah and Alex – a young, multicultural couple in their late…
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The Blame Game: Attachment Dynamics in Conflict 43 In the intricate dance of romantic relationships, an intriguing yet often distressing pattern emerges – the “Blame Game” dynamic. This complex interplay…
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The Avoid-Avoid Dance: Overcoming Attachment Fears 51 A unique pattern emerges when partners grapple with emotional avoidance – a strategy characterized by sidestepping confronting feelings or conflicts directly. This avoidance,…
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